Sunday, July 21, 2013

What is Life?.. That's a great beginning!!

It has been ages since I last blog. For the past 1.5 year, I have been very busy working. However, today I just would like to share one good answer for the question that I have been asking myself all this while 'what is life?'

Thanks to Jivanti for sharing with me such a wonderful answer. I read your message again and again the whole Sunday morning.

Life is about savoring the simple stuff.

No one gets to take his possessions with him when he dies. At the end of the day, the only thing we can take with us are our memories of all those great life experiences that add meanings to our lives.

So go after experiences they make you rich when you just think about them.

One of the most tragic things about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living.

And living is not working, eating, sleeping, and waking up to repeat it all over again.

So go slow my friend :) Live in the moment. In the here and now. That's the only permanent thng.

8 years ago you introduced me to blogging. I still remember you taught me to do it. And I featured you in that blog post. And it's still there. And now after 8 years, if not for you I would not have even realised I have such a great talent that brings adds so much passion in my life :)

So what is life is a good question... It means you know deep down this is not how your life should not be. And that's a great beginning.

So run our own race. You don't need to be at par with anyone of let the whole world be by itself.

The Dalai Lama said "It's simple to be happy but difficult to be simple".

Thanks a lot my friend.

I know what I should do now!!

Friday, January 13, 2012

Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed

By Bronnie Ware (who worked for years nursing the dying)

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

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Friday, December 30, 2011

By2 不是故意

我以为恶梦 不会一直缠着我
Wo yi wei e meng bu hui yi zhi chan zhe wo
我以为头痛 闭上眼就痊愈了
Wo yi wei tou tong bi shang yan jiu quan yu le
我只听 你爱听的歌
Wo zhi ting ni ai ting de ge
我只做 你的朋友
Wo zhi zuo ni de peng you

我变得沉默 伤心也不愿开口
Wo bian de chen mo shang xin ye bu yuan kai kou
我变了好多 是否更靠近你呢
Wo bian le hao duo shi fou geng kao jin ni ne
等一个 固执的如果
Deng yi ge gu zhi de ru guo
Ru guo ni dong wo wei shi me jiu gou le

你别担心 我 不怕一个人站在雨里
Ni bie dan xin wo bu pa yi ge ren zhan zai yu li
除了你 我找不到能快乐的意义
Chu le ni wo zhao bu dao neng kuai le de yi yi
眼泪 带给你的压力太清晰
Yan lei dai gei ni de ya li tai qing xi
Wo zhen de bu shi gu yi
不是故意 让自己变得不再像自己
Bu shi gu yi rang zi ji bian de bu zai xiang zi ji
为了你 拼命想拿一百分而努力
Wei le ni pin ming xiang na yi bai fen er nu li
你却 离我越来越远的距离
Ni que li wo yue lai yue yuan de ju li
Zhi dao wo shi qu ni

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Zhen de bu shi gu yi